If you have children, you already realize that even though the marital relationship is over, you and your ex-spouse will always have a connection. That may be particularly hard to deal with during a period when emotions run high.
However, there are some strategies you can employ to help ensure you and your ex have an effective co-parenting relationship.
1. Communication
No matter how old your child is, they have some type of schedule, whether it’s daycare, school, extracurricular activities or sports. In addition, there may be regular doctor or dental appointments. Coordinating your children’s schedule involves regular communication. If you and your ex-partner have problems being cordial to each other, other options exist, such as texting, email, shared calendars and co-parenting apps.
2. Consistency
Children thrive on routines. A consistent schedule in both households can provide a sense of security and stability. Both parents agree on important matters such as homework, chores, bedtime and screen time.
3. Be flexible
While consistency is essential, adapting to unforeseen circumstances is important. Life is unpredictable. It might be illness, a meeting running late or unexpected relatives coming to town, but being willing to adjust plans as needed shows cooperation and commitment to children’s needs.
4. Establish boundaries
Respect each other’s roles and responsibilities. Avoid interrupting each other’s parenting time or overriding decisions.
5. Keep your focus on the children
The primary goal of co-parenting is the well-being of the children. Try to limit discussions to what is in the children’s best interests. Don’t involve them in parental conflicts or use them as messengers.
Co-parenting with your ex-spouse has its challenges, and it won’t always be easy. But by committing to the well-being of your children, you can provide them with the love, reassurance and support they need.
